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About Lola

My mom. She’s pretty awesome, as some of you know.

My mom had no idea we were thinking about adopting. Until I told her we were. I think I may have even said something like “We’re thinking about adopting. ” “Oh wow.” “Actually, we’re going to.” “Oh wow.” “Preschool age.” “Oh wow.” “Two kids.” “Oh wow.” “Special needs.” “Oh wow.” Just kidding, my mom doesn’t say “oh wow” that much, but that’s kind of how the conversation went. My mom has been so supportive the whole time. I think she loved them as soon as I told her about them. That’s the kind of person she is.

And the thing is, my kids love her too. It was over three months since she saw them in January when she came a couple of weeks ago. I had told the kids that she was coming, but I wasn’t sure how they’d react. Ilya and I were ahead of Lena and Aaron walking in to the airport, so we greeted her. Then, Aaron and Lena walked in. My mom got down on her knees and Lena just took off running towards her and leapt into her arms. That girl loves her Lola.

My mom is also smart. “How do I install car seats?” “How do I turn on the child locks on car doors?”  “My garbage disposal won’t work ever since I put a rag in it.” “I just got home and my front door is open!!! What should I do?” Who needs Google or even 911 when you have my mom. She might try to deny it, but she is great at having the answers or knowing the search words to Google them. She is good at all of the traditional domestic tasks– cooking, cleaning, sewing, but she’s also been known to drive a limousine from time to time.

My mom is just a great person. I am pretty sure we would have forced her to stay last week if we could have.

Happy Mother’s Day, Lola!

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One More Drs. Appointment

First of all, Lena’s hearing appears to be totally fine. They want her retested in 6 weeks to make sure, as she had a bit of a cold last week, but no one is concerned now.

We had another doctor’s appointment today, for Ilya at the pediatrician. This doctor was recommended to me by a fellow adoptive parent, as well as another friend. I think generally we are a pretty mainstream family, but we do sometimes lean to the side of crunchy. One thing, my kids drink Kefir, instead of milk. The doctor mention last week he thought milk was better, in terms of protein and fat. Today, he said he was totally wrong about what it was– thinking it was like a cream soda, but he thinks I should transition my kids to milk. So they don’t stand out when they go to school. Seriously. Now, my kids will drink milk, but they prefer Kefir. Kefir is very similar in protein and fats to milk, but also offers probiotics. But, you know, other kids might think my kids are weird if they like kefir. I mean, what if the other kids find out that my kids don’t know what cheetos are? Or that they eat spinach and broccoli and LOVE all kinds of fruit? Uh-oh. Scarred for life. I also think this is funny because we live in a relatively progressive town, with lots of other families who consume the same sorts of foods. If anyone local wants to recommend a pediatrician or a family practice, please do. 
Lola and Deepa, my parents, left on Sunday. The kids and I are still recovering from them leaving. Lena took it the hardest for sure (mega tears as they drove away), but Ilya and I are also quite bummed and having a hard time returning to the swing of things. This has also brought up the subject of how Aaron and I aren’t ever going to leave them and Lola and Deepa may have gone home but they still miss them and love them. Knowing we can always get them on the phone helps too. 

Doctors Visits

This week has been a whirlwind of doctor’s visits. My parents are in town, my mom since Saturday and my dad just since this afternoon. I try to schedule appointments when my mom is around to help me out. On Tuesday, we had a check-up at the International Adoption Clinic, in KC, about an hour away. I really thought I scheduled it for 9:45, but it turns out it was at 9… meaning we had to leave the house at 7:45… yuck! On the way home from that, I got a call from the school district’s audiologist. They have two audiologists and when they talked about Lena and took into consideration her trouble with articulation and my concerns, they decided I should have her hearing checked sooner. She recommended we go to the KU Med Center, our other option being back to Children’s Mercy (where we had been just minutes before). She said she was certain that KU Med Center had the equipment best for testing Lena. I wasn’t sure if we’d need a referral and Lena needed some vaccinations, so right after I got off the phone with the audiologist, I called a well-recommended pediatrician’s office, to see if we could schedule an appointment. They had one, today at 8:45. Awesome, that meant my mom could watch Ilya and I could go with just Lena. So, we had that this morning. As soon as we got home from that appointment, I called the audiology clinic at KU Med and they’d JUST had a cancellation for an appointment… tomorrow. So, tomorrow, we will be heading back over to Kansas City, to find out the extent of Lena’s hearing loss. Lots of doctors visits. I still need to take Ilya to the pediatrician sometime and they both need to go to the dentist. The doctor said she will probably need a lot of work… I had noticed what looked like a cavity, so I am not surprised.

I was really lax on doctor’s appointments for the first few months. I just wanted to make sure that the kids weren’t constantly being thrust into uncomfortable, stressful situations. They both seem to bounce back from scary situations much better now and respond to being comforted, so I am comfortable with it.

In exciting news, after our evaluation last week, I called the school district about Pre-K and was told that Aaron makes too much to qualify the kids for Pre-K through them. Well, the doctor told me that both of them should qualify for developmental Pre-K. I am so glad. I was looking at private preschools and while I think that Ilya would really benefit from going to preschool, we weren’t sure how we’d manage the large additional cost. I’d love to send Lena to preschool too and I might consider if she is eligible and would not be in Ilya’s class. Otherwise, I’d probably just wait until the following year.

I’ll keep you all updated on Lena’s visit tomorrow. I am not sure when I’ll get a chance to blog, as I think I’ll be busy the next couple of days. I’ll try to find some free time ASAP!

Happy Birthday, Babushka Lola!

Today is Babushka Lola’s (my mom) birthday. Happy Birthday, Babushka, Lola! We love you lots and lots. We made her a special card and it took us about two hundred photos to get what I wanted. Here are some of the outtakes:


It was cheesy smile central.


Well, I think I prefer the smile to the grumpy look!


“Smile like this!”


Apparently his most natural smiles come about when he chokes his sister!


This was one of the last photos on our first attempt. “Ppppppphhh, I am so done with Mr. Cheesy Smiles over here.”


She is a little princess. If you are wondering what happened to her head, that’s what happens when clumsy 3yos run on pavement.

After looking through the photos from our first attempt, we tried again. Lena had a very cute pose in one of the photos, which inspired this idea…


I’m over here, Lena!


This is so cute, but not what I was going for.

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And this was her birthday card. How cute are these two?!?

Thank you, Babushka Lola!

When my mom was here, she got the kid’s pajamas. Lena’s were a bit too big and Ilya’s looked too small, so we went to exchange them the other day. I let the kids pick out their own pajamas.


Ilya instantly decided on these. They’re pretty awesome. I like that they are two pieces, but the top does not have buttons (and is not super tight). They fit him very well, as you can see.


Lena did not really pick out pajamas. I gave her the chance, but she did not really get it. So, I picked out these and asked her if she liked them. They’re a hit! A bit big, but she will be able to wear them through the spring.