Category Archives: Everyday Life

2/365: One Hundred

Today would have been my grandmother’s 100th birthday. Yesterday, I shared a bit about my dad’s mother, but this time I am talking about my mom’s mother. She would have turned 100 today.

However, she passed away back before I was born, or even my sisters were born.

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(left: My grandmother. Right: Me, at a grave in the family cemetery where she was buried.)

We never had the chance to meet her, but everyone who did speaks very highly of her. One aunt says that she married into the family not for my uncle, but for my grandmother.

Happy 100th birthday, Grandma Ary.

1/365: New Year, New Project

My mom makes a big meal for every holiday, including New Year’s Day. I remember little about New Years Day growing up, except for the food. Pork and black eyed peas. Always.

I also associate black eyed peas with my grandmother, my dad’s mom. She always came to visit us for two weeks each winter, which included Christmas and New Years. My grandmother grew up in Oklahoma in the Dust Bowl and Great Depression. She knew hunger and poverty like I can’t imagine and even 60 years later, it showed. It was ingrained deeply in her.

Black eyed peas, a southern tradition, make me think of her. I was exceptionally picky child, something that my grandmother could not understand. Black eyed peas are supposed to bring luck to you, and I remember my mom telling me each year just to eat one. Just one. I’m sure I choked it down with drama. Lots and lots of drama.

Well, this year, I made them for myself for the first time. Although I’ll eat them now, I still can’t say that I like them. But, for one day a year, it’s a little reminder of roots. I can tell the kids about my grandmother and about the superstition that eating them brings you luck.
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Today, I am also starting a new project 365, one photo a day for a year. After finishing mine in October, I knew I wanted to do it again, but I needed a little break first.

This year, I have two goals:

  • Develop a consistent style
  • Focus on story telling: with a single image, with a set of images and combining images with text

I’m hoping to keep growing in photography, being able to express myself, and also document memories.

I don’t set resolutions. I’m not the type of person who would keep them, unless I am very, very motivated. I still have my goal to run a 5K, but it’s fallen by the wayside as the days have gotten shorter and it’s gotten colder out. I haven’t changed my mind, just biding my time until spring. Or at least until my husband is home before dark.

But, I am still reminded of a great Doctor Who quote, “We’re all stories in the end. Make it a good one.” (Thanks to my friend Amanda for reminding me of that awesome quote.) Yes, we’re all stories in the end. So, in 2015, I hope to leave behind some good stories. Both in photos and writing, but also in the memories of my children.

So that’s my hope for this year: Keep improving. Make memories. A photo a day.

Do you have any goals or resolutions for 2015? Who else is doing a Project 365 this year?

Looking Back at 2014

I think I just wrapped my brain around it being 2014, and now it’s almost 2015. This is the third year that I’ve picked a photo for each month, one that is a favorite of mine or represents the month well or tells a story of something that happened that month.

2014 was a busy year. Here are my photos that sum it up…

January: Reed’s birthday is in January, so I wanted to pick a photo from his birthday, but this is actually a favorite of mine. Reed really enjoyed sledding. He’s grown so much in the past year!
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February: Gus’s 3rd birthday. Cars, trains and anything with wheels are still a favorite of his.
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March: March was a big month of spending time with my extended family. First, we went to Pennsylvania over spring break, then my mom came here to visit us.
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April: This is one of my favorite photos from April and the year as whole. It was a big seller from Moose Prints, which I also started in April.
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May: Another nighttime photo, before definitely one of my favorite photos of the year. I love camping and being out with my camera under the stars. It is also representative of where I’d like to see my photography work go– clean, colorful and bright, even with the night sky as the main feature.
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June: June was the month when we welcomed Big L here. It’s hard to believe it’s just been 6 months since we met her for the first time.
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July: This is just one of my favorite photos from July because it shows our 4th of July fun and Big L wearing her “super loved” shirt. Truth.
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August: August was when we said goodbye to Big L. Here she is, waiting to check in for her flight, my mom’s hand on her shoulder.
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September: September was a rocky month. The other photo I considered showing was Gus starting his first day of school. But, i picked the sunflowers. We spent a lot of time outside in September and my photos reflect. I could spend forever out in sunflower fields.
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October: Halloween with our friend Adrian. We had a ninja, Dorothy, Adrian was Buzz Lightyear and Gus was a lion.
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November: I love that she reads now, and that she reads to him. I’m not sure this really sums up the mouth, but it’s definitely a bit happy moment for the year.
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December: My little Anna. This was a part of her birthday gift and I love how these photos turned out.
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What was the best part of 2014 for you?

20 Birthday Questions (Lena – 7 years old)

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3 years ago, we started asking Reed and Lena 20 questions on their birthday. These questions stay the same each year and give us a chance to compare answers and see what has changed from year to year. It’s fun at their ages now, but it will be really neat when they’re much older.

However, this is the first year we’ve done a video of the interview. I saw Jill asking Arie his questions and I knew I had to do that with my kids. It will be something else for us to look back on.

Here are the past years:

1. What is your favorite color? Pink

2. What is your favorite toy? Dog (which one?) From Milo

3. What is your favorite fruit? Apples

4. What is your favorite tv show? Frozen [to explain, we don’t have cable, so my kids know no difference between a movie and a TV show.]

5. What is your favorite thing to eat for lunch? Quesadillas

6. What is your favorite outfit? A dress (which one?) The orange dress (I think she means this one)

7. What is your favorite game? Mario [Mariokart on the Wii]

8. What is your favorite snack? Strawberries

9. What is your favorite animal? Zebra

10. What is your favorite song? Let It Go

11. What is your favorite book? Um… Frozen

12. Who is your best friend? Phoenix (a friend from her class)

13. What is your favorite special treat? Cookies (what kind?) chocolate chip

14. What is your favorite thing to do outside? Jump on the trampoline

15. What is your favorite drink? Water

16. What is your favorite holiday? Christmas

17. What do you like to take to bed with you at night? A teddy, no, monkey, my pink monkey

18. What is your favorite thing to eat for breakfast? Applesauce

19. What do you want for dinner on your birthday? Potato soup

20. What do you want to be when you grow up? A doctor

The video also has some bonus questions that Lena and Reed came up with, so be sure to check that out, too!

Re-Hosting: How Things are Going

So, let’s talk about re-hosting. In so many ways, it’s easier than hosting for the first time.

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(wearing matching shirts that say me + family = awesome. yes, i did buy them the same shirt, but matching is all their thing.)

  • She was totally comfortable with us again in a matter of hours, not days.
  • She already knew our routine and house rules pretty well, so we’ve had virtually no conflicts.
  • She already trusts us and respects us.
  • She knows a fair bit of English and knows how to ask for translation help.

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All in all, things are going pretty smoothly. We did have one major rule change from summer hosting, which is that I’m not allowing her time on (her own) social media. I’ve had mixed feelings about this, knowing what an addict to social media I am myself AND knowing how bored and lonely she must feel being in a country where she doesn’t have people who speak her language or many friends her own age. However, she’s taken it pretty well and I have a couple of ideas on how to keep her connected to kids her age who speak her language without giving her internet freedom.

One is that she has a cousin who was adopted to the US over the summer and the girls skyped today. I think we will have to do that again, as I think both of them enjoyed the chance to catch up. Big L loved telling me about what they talked about and I think it was good for her to see a child who was adopted and is thriving, especially one she knows so well.

We also skyped with a translator and language teacher today. She is from Big L’s country. I wanted her to just chat with Big L and sort of “check in” with her. I told the translator to just take her time and befriend Big L and when it was my turn to talk with her, I learned a bit about Big L that I didn’t already know and got some more details on her life. It was nice to hear these things pretty much straight from Big L, with our wonderful translator’s help. We are going to keep this up throughout her visit, doing some language learning and some chatting with the translator.

Once Big L was done and I was filled in on the details, the translator also taught me some of Big L’s preferred language. This is a different language than Russian, which is what we learned for our trips to Ukraine and Russia. It’s similar, but challenging in its own ways. I don’t expect to master it and I probably won’t ever become conversational, but for Big L, it’s a really solid way for her to see that I’m meeting her in the middle. The translator/teacher is also giving me “homework”, so Big L can help me practice. It gives her a chance to be my teacher.

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After such a busy day, we had a really fun evening. Big L LOVES teaching us the many languages that she speaks. She constantly praises me as her excellent student and constantly picks on Aaron as her awful one. Poor guy. We love to tease him, but he certainly does try. We’re encouraging the kids to try some Russian phrases as well, at least please and thank you. It’s a lot of fun to do this as a family. Lots and lots of laughing together as we try to repeat the words of our teacher, Big L. For host parents, I think being willing to try your host child’s language and make mistakes doing it gives them a lot of inspiration to try some English.
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All in all, things are great. She is helpful and kind and funny. An all around great kid. We love having her here.

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(Teasing your hair is not a requirement of hosting.)