Category Archives: First Adoption

The Weekend

We don’t really do too much on the weekends. Yesterday, we went off to try to buy Ilya and Lena boots. We didn’t bring them shoes, not knowing what size they’d wear. Ukrainians are very particular about how bundled up their children must be in the winter and so, we need to buy them decent winter boots when we break them out of the orphanage.

We went to the children’s shoe store down below us and had some sticker shock. The shoes were American and from other countries… Sketchers, Clarks, Ecco. Nothing below $50 USD. So, we went to another store. The shoes were more like $20-35 there. Not as cute at all and they didn’t have the sizes we needed in the shoes we liked the best. We certainly can buy shoes there, but we wanted to look around some more first. So, we walked around for awhile.

Anyone want to guess where we ate? I don’t even remember the last time I ate at this chain at home, but here we are a bit desperate.

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I saw this store after we ate. I think I know what that means!
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We found another shoe store. Also about $50 for children’s boots. So, we returned home to a night of watching television on the internet and eating grilled cheese.

Today, we ventured out to get lunch. Off to the pizza place, only to find out that they were closed. But, I had done some internet research and found another place I thought might have English menus. An Irish Pub. Not sure if they’d have anything that I could eat (I don’t eat meat), but they certainly did. It looks like the kind of Irish Pub you’d find in the US. They have a whole several page alcohol menu. But their food menu… um, interesting? Dozens of kinds of sausages, two pages of sushi, and another two pages for sandwiches, ribs, pizza and salads. I thought I’d try another Caesar Salad and Pizza Margarita. Aaron got ribs. The Caesar dressing was not neon green this time. It was a bit watered down, but pretty good. All of the rest of the food was very good. Aaron had the most amazing baked potato. The Golden Lion. For those of you coming to Donetsk, check it out.

That was pretty much our day today. Eat. Do a bit of grocery shop. Now, who knows what?

Again

Aaron taught Lena a new word today. She caught on very quickly. I think he realized his mistake in teaching her… you teach her that and you can’t ever put her down! What word, you ask…?

Lena sat on my lap for about an hour today! First, she wanted to play the upside down game. She hangs her head over my knees and every thirty seconds pulls herself up to look at me. I say “HI!” and she nods and says “da, da” (yes, yes). Then, I took out the camera to take a photo of the boys’ monster creation. Well, she discovered how fun it is to watch the world through the camera. So, she sat there playing with the camera. Then, we gave her some juice and… she learned how to drink out of the sippy cup! YAYYY! She couldn’t take the lid off with the camera in one hand, so she tried drinking it and figured it out. She seemed to be having fun with it. I hope we can get her to drink like that for awhile… at least until we get home.
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They made up another fun game today. Lena was laying on the block that Ilya wanted. So…

This is the monstrosity that Ilya and Aaron built today. No way this would have so high without a little trouble maker staying on my lap.
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But it had to fall over sometime…

We think Ilya calls Aaron “Zaza”. You can hear him saying in the video. Today, he was trying to get Aaron to do something and he was saying “zaza! zaza!” And I said “papa?” And he said “zaza!” He also says “juice” like “seuss”.

I really liked Lena’s little jumper/pinafore today. It was a bit short to wear with just tights, though! The nanny brought a jacket down for her. A 2T this time. It was a bit big, but I think the 18-24m stuff we have for her should fit her nicely.
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Some Questions Answered

What video camera are you using?
We just brought our Olympus Stylius 850SW and take both photos and video on that. We chose to bring this camera because it was designed to be nearly unbreakable. Waterproof, freezeproof, can stand a 5ft drop (and our trail guide tested that horse back riding last year!). We’ve used a Flip video camera in the past and the quality seems to be a bit better, but I am not sure if it’s worth lugging both across the ocean!

Also, do you then use Flicker to upload them?
Yes, we’ve found Flickr is the best way to keep the picture and video quality high! We import the photos to iPhoto, select our favorites and then click “Share” and “Flickr” up in the top bar. With videos, you have to upload them to Flickr manually. I also highly recommend Flickr because if you ever lose your photos, you can download them again at a high quality resolution.

How long did it take the orphanage director to give the thumbs up to allow you to see the judge?
About 5 minutes? She asked us a few questions and we were good to go! We’ve only met the deputy director, but she seemed to have no problems with us. She will also have to testify at court that this is in Ilya and Lena’s best interest. 


Are you still on to see the judge soon?
Yes! Next Monday! Please pray that it goes well for us. Our facilitator walked us through the whole thing, but I am still nervous about remembering everything that I have to say.

You had said something before about the 10 day wait being waived. Is that still possible and if so when will you know if it has been waived or that it won’t be?
Well, someone who adopted from here 3 years ago told us that there is a prosecutor who always contests it if it is waved. And the length of time which we would have to wait then is 30 days! So they do not waive the wait. That was over 3 years ago, and we do not know if that applies to this specific region. We  only know of one family who adopted from this orphanage and their wait was not waived. We are planning for it not to be waived but praying that it is! If it is waived, we will know at the end of our court session, when the judge reads his decision.

Just a Snowy Day

The best part of today’s visit might have been the hello I got from Lena… arms stretched out, running up the hall to greet me! She is such a cutie.
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We brought Color Wonder markers today. They weren’t crazy about them and it’s easy to see why. We had gotten coloring sheets with them and the markers will only show up on certain parts of the color sheets in patterns. The markers also take several seconds to show up, which I think was frustrating for them because they thought they weren’t working. Lena’s outfit today would have been a lot better for coloring– ink isn’t so likely to show up on a patterned dress and dark tights!

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Ilya seems to test us a lot. Trying to go through our things, asking to do the same thing over and over again and being told no over and over again, being very possessive of the toys we give him, but trying to take Lena’s right out of her hands. But, he is very difficult one minute and then very helpful the next. He is clearly still just trying to figure out who we are and what we’ll allow him to do. I have no doubt it’ll ease up once he realizes what expectations we have for him, but boy is it exhausting right now!

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Ilya’s word for cracker sounds identical to the word for poop. We can tell by context which one he wants, but he must be very confused!

Someone mentioned bringing sippy cups instead of juice boxes. We bought sippy cups last weekend. But, they’ve never had sippy cups before and are used to drinking out of a regular cup. We showed them how to use the sippy cups, but they still prefer to just take the lid off because they get juice much faster. I think the ideal cups will be the kind with a lid and a straw. We have some at home, but I forgot them! They are used to straws, so I think that will be fine.

I took this video to show you how much Ilya talks in Russian. We have no idea what he is saying.

And it snowed today. Not too much. Which is how I like snow. Just a bit, thanks.
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That is the university across the street from our apartment.

A Visit with Markers

Today, they were playing some kind of Christmas music for the kids. They brought the kids out and there were about 15 nannies… Aaron took this video of Lena. 😉 Dana’s mom, especially, you will like this one!

We taught Lena some colors today. Have we told you that they don’t bring us Ilya for about the first half hour? That is why we always have more Lena photos and videos. She is saying “black” but she is so quiet!

Lena seems to pay good attention to detail. You can hear how impressed I am in this video. And not to worry, she intentionally dumped the markers everywhere later. She is not always this organized.

Ilya came out and drew with us too. He traced a ruler.
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A lot of people have asked us if they’re brother and sister… our response was “not yet!” They may not be brother and sister biologically but they certainly act like it. Ilya always wants what Lena has. And Lena knows how to push his buttons. Here she is knocking over the blocks he set up and he is yelling at her.
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I am feeling pretty tired after today’s visit. We were talking about how we feel like we’re trying to watch these two in a museum. The nannies yell at them if they get too loud. They tell Ilya not to climb on the blocks. And we try to keep everything, including the kids very clean. Hard with markers, crackers and juice. Any ideas on activities we can do which will remain quiet and not too messy?