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Radical

I mentioned to you a few posts ago that I ordered the book Radical by David Platt. I received it earlier this week and I am about halfway through.

I’ve really been enjoying it, agreeing with what he has to say, but this really hit home…

“It is easy for the numbers and statistics regarding the poor and needy to seem cold and distant. The idea of billions in poverty or twenty-six thousand children dying from starvation or preventible disease before we lay our heads on our pillows tonight seems hard to imagine.

This was the case for my wife and me when we began the process of adopting our first son. We had read the statistics before…. and they were staggering. Millions of orphans in Africa, a number that is rising dramatically as a result of the AIDS crisis that is currently taking the lives of moms and dads across the sub-Saharan plain. Millions of orphans in Asia, many if not most of whom are destined for lives in crime and prostitution if they are not adopted. Millions of orphans in Europe, Latin America, and the United States.

As overwhelming as these numbers were to us, I have to admit they were still just numbers to us before we traveled to Kazakhstan to get our son. It’s not that we didn’t care. After all, we were going through the adoption process. But the numbers still seemed distant, removed from our daily life in suburban Birmingham.

But everything changed when we made our first trip to the orphanage in Kazakhstan. We saw children playing outside. We walked past their rooms inside. Suddenly those numbers on a page came alive in our hearts. We realized it was Caleb who was sleeping in one of those cribs, and it was Caleb who was included in those numbers. All at once the numbers became real… and personal.

We learned that orphans are easier to ignore before you know their names. They are easier to ignore before you see their faces. It is easier to pretend that they’re not real before you hold them in your arms. But once you do, everything changes. “

Dear USCIS,

Dear USCIS,

Please approve our I-600A. And mail us our 171-H. Soon? I anxiously check my mailbox each day for some news from you.

I’d just like to remind you that we gave you a pass when you lost our marriage license and birth certificates. We just mailed you new ones and acted like nothing happened. I am kind of curious why the letter dated 8/14 was not post-marked ’til 8/28. But, you know what? I’ll give you a pass on that, too. If you’ll just send us the magical 171-H.

We’d really just like that last piece of paper. To complete our dossier. So we can travel this fall.

Please?

Thanks,
Molly

A Question and an Answer

Someone asked me yesterday, “why would you want to adopt instead of having your own children?” I have so many patient, informative responses to that question, some downright snarky ones, and some hilarious ones. I think if you’ve been reading my blog for awhile, you know why we’re adopting, but…

A lot of things have got me thinking lately about the American Dream.  The desire for success. And money. And comfortable living.

I think if I “achieved” great success and great wealth, it would feel so small to me, knowing that there are still people in this world, who don’t have their basic needs met.

I know a man who is a millionaire, because he diligently saved his money over 50 years. But, what if he had given it away, how many people would it have fed, provided clean water, an education? Is saving practically really a great quality to have when that money could be put to good use? I am not stating. I am just asking. Honestly and humbly.

In response to the person who asked me yesterday, why we’d ever want to adopt, I read this beautiful blog post  today.

Busy, busy

We’re still alive. And mostly well. And chugging along over here. I have been buried under a big avalanche of napkins. Yes, this is wonderful. It is business. It is money. But, it is exhausting. And I have more to do than spend 2 hours on the computer designing, 12 hours printing and another hour running around each day. Like, um, finishing our adoption loan applications. Or those letters I told Bethany I’d email to her last week to be translated into Russian for Reed and Scarlett.

Tomorrow is our big USCIS fingerprinting day. A few of you said your local USCIS office let you go in early. I’ve heard through the grapevine that the Kansas City office does NOT allow this. That is why we just waited until our appointment date.

Christie blogged about this great series which Rachel is doing on HIV+ orphans & adoption. Really good stuff. Thank you so much, Rachel, for blogging about HIV and Christie for sharing the link.

Also, Angie blogged about this book, Radical: Taking Back Your Faith from the American Dream by David Platt, today. I was so excited. I instantly ordered it.

Garage Sale Feedback

My sister-in-law, Rachel, emailed me a few days ago, to share some of the stories from their garage sale. I wanted to share this with you all. As I mentioned before, they did not price anything for the sale. They had info about our adoption & asked people to donate whatever they felt was right. It sounds like it was a very positive experience…


I have to share a few stories from the garage sale, I was amazed by how caring some people were.  There were a few people that took advantage of the no-price policy, but overall people were so great.  There were several people that just gave us a dollar or two as they were leaving, they didn’t buy anything but they just wanted to donate to the kids.  There were a lot of people that shared stories about people they knew who had adopted or were looking into adoption, and they understood how difficult the process was and what it meant.  One lady bought two books and one small item and gave us 20 dollars and didn’t want any change, one lady had her kids give us each a dollar and then showed them the pictures of Reed and Scarlett and talked to them about where their money was going.  It sounds a little crazy, but it was really an good experience, I felt like I saw a really good side of people this weekend (which I don’t think usually happens at a garage sale!). “