I recently noticed Gus laying on my bed, ready for bedtime and waiting for his siblings to finish getting ready. A somewhat common occurrence, but seeing him in a pair of monkey pajamas gave me a flashback.
When I came in, he just giggled and asked me to tickle him. No big deal, right?
Well, I think many adoptive parents would agree that the hardest time is bedtime. Actually, I think most parents would agree on that, too, but having children who have been in an orphanage, where bedtime meant changing caregivers or not enough people to sooth them to sleep or who knows what else, bedtime is an extra challenge. It’s a time of vulnerability. Instead of the sweet vulnerability you often see in kids who have been nurtured their entire lives, rage and fear often take its place.
I’m pretty familiar with these emotions.
But, do you see that?
Almost two years of difference. Two years of healing and trust being built up.
As a special end-of-summer treat, we did a movie night. Reed and Lena got to stay up for a movie, and Gus was allowed to stay up, too, on the condition that he didn’t melt down from the late bedtime.
They often watch something off of Netflix, their pick. But, what made this night unique, in addition to the popcorn, was that it was a movie I picked out and I sat down and watched the entire thing with them. Normally, movie time for them means time for me to get things done.
However, I found that actually sitting down for a movie with them was a great bonding time. By the end of the movie, I had both Lena and Gus on my lap. Reed was still busy finding the last popcorn kernels to munch on.
We all really enjoyed ourselves, and I think this might have to become a Friday night tradition. I picked Nanny McPhee, which I saw a few years ago and really enjoyed. I’m going to start introducing them to some of my favorites, as well as watch some movies I’ve never seen and wanted to.
Here’s my list:
Sound of Music Nanny McPhee
Night at the Museum
Mr. Magorium’s Wonder Emporium
The Fantastic Mr. Fox
Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone
Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory
The school year composite photos have become a fun way for me to document the school year and show how my kids changed from August to May. The idea started for me last year, when Reed finished kindergarten. I had two nearly identical photos from his first day and his last day, and I was planning to put them side by side. Then, I wondered why I couldn’t just put these two Reeds side by side in the same photo.
A bit of time spent in Photoshop and it was complete!
Reed thought it was hilarious.
This year, I took both photos with the plan to do this again, and I had a couple of requests for a tutorial. So, here you go. 🙂
School Year Composite Photo:
Pick your location. Someplace which you know will not change very much over the course of the school year. A front porch, or in our case, our fence.
Place your child in front of their location and snap your photo. If you can, take the photo from a spot where you will remember to stand in 9 months. Take a good photo, with particular attention to the sharpness.
Repeat step number two at the end of the school year. 🙂
Edit your photos as similarly as possible. If you use Lightroom, use the “Develop Settings/Copy Settings” option to copy over all of the settings.
Bring both photos into photoshop. Again, if you use Lightroom, you can do this using “Edit In/Edit In Adobe Photoshop”.
Pick which photo you like the background better in. Go to the OTHER photo. For me, I usually prefer the end of year one.
Use the selection tool to select your child, with a bit of margin on all sides.
Paste this onto the other photo.
Now, use the background (in my case the fence) to line your two photos up. You will probably need to use the “Free Transform”(⌘T on a Mac on CTRL-T on a PC). Things may not line up perfectly (note the rocks at the bottom of my image), but do your best.
Now, switch to the eraser tool. Make it pretty large, and start removing the extra background on your pasted layer. Do not bother getting too close to your subject. We’ll deal with that in a minute. Just remove any major excess.
Once you’ve removed the large chunks of background, switch to the background eraser tool (the eraser plus scissors). Now you will use this tool to go around your subject again, but get much closer this time. You may need to adjust to tolerance. Here I have mine set at 12%.
Now go back over it with the regular eraser and touch up any areas where the background eraser didn’t get everything you wanted.
Zoom out to look at your photo. The composite part should be nearly done; do any final touch ups.
Now, it’s time to add the text. I like to do this by adding a black rectangle with white text, like a chalkboard. Start with the rectangle shape tool and make your rectangle.
I like to adjust the opacity(in your layers section), for a softer look. In my final image, I have it set at 73%.
Now, just type your text on. I like to use school-inspired fonts. Da Font is a good place to download free fonts.
If you are wondering about obtaining Lightroom and/or Photoshop, I highly recommend the Adobe Photoshop Photography Program, which gives you Lightroom and Photoshop for $10/mo.
I’m starting a new blog series– Special Needs Sunday. I’ve partnered with several adoptive families to tell their stories and advocate for special needs adoption. Each week will feature a different child, family and special need(s) and we will cover medical needs, physical needs, and developmental disabilities. I’ve asked the families to write up their answers in either a Q&A format or a story-like format. The questions I’ve chosen are commonly asked questions when a family is considering adopting a child with special needs– what is day to day life like, what are the costs associated, etc.
There are two purposes of this blog series:
To help families share the reality of parenting a child with special needs.
To advocate and encourage families to be open to special needs when adopting.
Are you ready to learn? Any specific needs that you’d like to hear about?
I said that we wouldn’t be hosting this summer. I should probably never speak with any certainty.
We were originally hosting with New Horizons for Children. All of our fundraising went directly to them. I have only the best things to say about them. I would highly recommend them.
But, when our host kiddo was no longer available, there were really no other children still available and listed with New Horizons who fit our criteria. We had decided to host pretty late in the game.
In my tight-knit adoption group, I mentioned how I wished we could host one of the children available with a different organization, but all of the money we had raised was with New Horizons.
“Why don’t you ask if they’ll transfer the money?”
So, I fired off the email, just to ask, even mentioning that I knew it was a “long shot”.
Meanwhile, I drafted another hesitant email to my contact person with Project One Forty Three, “can you tell me more about this girl ‘L’?”
I heard back about L first. I was led to two different people who had met her. In less than 24 hours, I learned more about her than I had known about any of my kids before I met them. Birthdate, region she’s from, her orphanage, what she likes to do, her approximate clothing size and more.
She sounded like a sweet girl and like she might fit in here.
It took several more emails, but New Horizons agreed to transfer the money!
We said, “YES!”
So, meet L.
We’re super excited. She’ll be with us for just over 10 weeks this summer!
So, because L had a grant AND we had already done quite a bit of fundraising, her actual hosting fees to the agency are covered.
However, she will be flying into JFK, which works out well with our summer plans to visit family, but it means that she’ll also be flying out of JFK at the end of her trip. So, we’re going to keep on selling more Moose Prints to pay for plane tickets for one of us to fly her back to JFK at the end of her stay.
Are you ready to help?
I’ve added many sets of notecards to the Moose Prints store. They’re all ready to ship as soon as they’re purchased. Selling those out will get us pretty far along with paying for that plane ticket. Purchasing prints will help, too and I have a few ready to ship prints as well.
I have 3 copies of “Pink!” in the 8×10.
And I have 2 copies of the Blood Moon Timelapse in 8×12.
I’m also happy to order what I don’t already have ready to ship. You can find the notecards and rest of the prints on the Moose Prints page.
And you can order by filling out the form and using the Paypal link here.
A few months ago, Lena came home from school and told me how good she was at gymnastics. The next week, she came home and told me the same. They had been trying gymnastics in gym class, and she really loved it. So, we asked her and Reed if they would be interested in taking it. To which, we got a resounding YES.
So, we signed them each up for a 7-week class. This was their last week. They had a parent’s observation day, so I got to go in and see what they’d learned.
Lena’s class was first.
He rocked this rope. Made it look easy. It’s really high!
So, my thoughts after one gymnastics class? I’m not sure we’ll be doing it again. Don’t get me wrong, the program is great, but I think gymnastics didn’t really meet their expectations. They both enjoyed it, but neither one of them was very disappointed that it was over. I think they were both expecting more open-play and less focus/working on skills. We’ll see if Reed or Lena expresses an interest in the future and then maybe we’ll reconsider. At the very least, they learned some new skills and got to try some new things!